Feed drop time! We’re on a break from the show as we prepare for v5 of SquadCast and work on revamping the SquadCast podcast. So, we’re bringing you carefully curated feed drops from some of our favorite SquadCasters.

This week, meet Jordan Harbinger, an advisor to SquadCast.fm. In this episode, Jordan interviews Daniel Levin. From Jordan’s website: Daniel Levin is an attorney, political commentator, and author of Nothing but a Circus: Misadventures Among the Powerful and Proof of Life: Twenty Days on the Hunt for a Missing Person in the Middle East.

What Jordan Discusses with Daniel Levin

  • How the Syrian regime kidnaps westerners and blames the opposition, keeping them in captivity — often for years — as bargaining chips.
  • How Daniel became the go-to person for hunting down a missing person in Syria when no government, embassy, or intelligence agency would help.
  • What proof of life means in a kidnapping scenario, and how someone in search of a missing person goes about finding this.
  • How people use leverage to get what they want from one another in a place where no one does a favor without wanting something in return.
  • The nuances of negotiating with criminals.
  • And much more…

Also in this episode


  • Written and produced by Arielle Nissenblatt
  • Mixed and designed by Vince Moreno Jr.
  • Artwork and logos by Alex Whedbee
  • Hosted by Zach Moreno and Rock Felder

Episode Transcriptions

NICK GLIMSDAHL: Hey, before we get to this week’s episode, I want to tell you about a podcast I think you’ll enjoy, and it’s recorded on Squadcast. I’m Nick Glimsdahl and I’m the host of Press 1 For Nick. It’s a podcast about customer experience, employee experience, and customer service. You’ll find it wherever you listen. And at my website, press1fornick. Now let’s get to the show.


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ZACH: Today’s fee drop comes from Jordan Harbinger, one of our Squadcast advisers. When we asked him which episode of his we should drop, he didn’t hesitate to share this one. We hope you enjoy it.

JORDAN HARBINGER: Coming up next on The Jordan Harbinger Show.

DANIEL LEVIN: First of all, I don’t get involved in ransom negotiations. And the reason I don’t do that as a personal conviction, where I’m deeply convinced that the moment you open up discussions for ransom, you basically, even if you get someone out, who just insured 10 new hostages. I understand that it’s heartbreaking and you just have to step away in situations. There were cases, including an American in Syria, where I was asked to get involved by a politician. And when I called my friend to see if there was anything we could do, he said, don’t touch this one. They’re negotiating a ransom behind your back. That would be paid by the Catelli’s. And this person ended up getting out because the ransom was paid. But what I know is he gets out, 10 more people get taken.


JORDAN: Welcome to the show. I’m Jordan Harbinger. On The Jordan Harbinger Show, we decode the stories, secrets and skills of the world’s most fascinating people. We have in-depth conversations with people at the top of their game. Astronauts and entrepreneurs, spies and psychologists, even the occasional journalist turned poker champion, Russian chess grandmaster, or former Jihadi. And each episode turns our guests’ wisdom into practical advice that you can use to build a deeper understanding of how the world works and become a better critical thinker. If you’re new to the show, or you’re looking for a handy way to tell your friends about the show, we have episode starter packs. These are collections of top rated episodes, organized by topic. They’ll help new listeners get a taste of everything we do here on the show. Just go to jordanharbinger.com/start to get started there on the website. They’re also on Spotify. You can also use these start pages to help somebody else get started with the show. And I love it when you do that. Cause that’s how we grow and keep the lights on around here. Now today’s episode, I realized after I did it here, there may be some confusion. If you haven’t read any of his story, people might be a little bit lost right in the beginning, but I’m pulling out a lot of the story itself and a lot of useful lessons from the story. So just forget it. Look, the book is great. You should read it. But at the end of the day, it’s about the lessons in the book. So even if you get a little lost in the beginning, bear with us, we’ll have some takeaways that you can use as you’d expect from this show. This story is about a missing person in Syria, but it ends up really being about human trafficking and the horrors of the Syrian conflict and human fallout and collateral damage thereof. It’s really such an interesting story, but Daniel Levin is a extremely interesting fellow. I just, you rarely meet people like this. Now by way of background, Daniel Levin runs an NGO that has a lot to do with developing young leaders in the Middle East. And so what this means is as a result, he is essentially the go-to guy when somebody gets kidnapped or goes missing in a place like Syria. Where there’s…No one has any reach. It’s just a black box for even places like the Red Cross, Rescent. Just have no idea where people are because Daniel saying a master networker almost just is too cliche. He knows everyone from human traffickers to terrorists financeers and leaders of tribes and NGOs. And people respect him on all sides of this crazy sort of battle that is going on in the Middle East, especially in Syria. And he’s just an amazing character, the story’s quite fascinating. And I know you’re going to get a lot out of this show. If you’re wondering how I managed to book all these amazing folks for the show, it is because of my network. In fact, this episode was suggested by show fan. I’m teaching you how to build your network for free over at jordanharbinger.com/course. The course is about improving your networking and connections. And inspiring others to develop a personal and professional relationship with you. It’ll make you a better networker, a better connector and a better thinker. That’s jordanharbinger.com/course. And by the way, most of the guests on the show subscribing contribute to the course. And as you’ll hear, Daniel Levin is an extremely good networker. That’s the basis for the whole episode here. So come join us. You’ll be in smart company where you belong. Now, here’s Daniel Levin. 

JORDAN: What do you do day to day? You know, what is your sort of day to day job, if you will, because it sounds like from the book you have quite a diverse repertoire of skills, I guess you could say. 

DANIEL: I dunno, it’s a diverse repertoire of shit, then I’m not sure it’s skills, but it’s, um, I run this foundation. So right now we’re doing two projects in Libya and Yemen. And they’ve been really hard because one of our Libyan staffers got killed at a roadblock a few days ago. And one of our Yemen staffers, a woman, got kidnapped in Yemen. After this podcast, I’m going to take a nap. 

JORDAN: I  don’t blame you. Yeah, that sounds quite intense. Why do people come to you wanting help with missing people in Syria? You know, why you, I don’t know who I would call if a friend of mine, well, besides you, if a friend of mine went missing in Syria, I mean, the list is short.

DANIEL: So serious specifically, the context was that our foundation got active after everything fell apart. In 2011, we were asked initially the war, when the war broke out ‘11, ‘12, it wasn’t really clear who was going to emerge from that war. You know, this is before Russian intervention in 2014, and the Iranian intervention was only incidentally through Hezbollah. And Hezbollah was actually getting their ass kicked and Lebanon too initially. So it was really unclear. The U.S. was all over the place supporting Free Syrian Army. So we got contacted by the various groups in Syria, actually by certain groups. First, the government and one opposition, our condition was everyone has to be on board to help mediate the conflict. And our condition for doing that was the way, I mean, when I say we our foundation ,was that the only way we get involved in these conflicts is by them giving us sort of next generation people. In other words, people, young people in their twenties or thirties that we can then train for post-conflict work. Otherwise we didn’t feel like just mediating for the sake of, of then everybody’s saying, so sorry about don’t have anyone to take over. So they were fine with that. And we got to take about 25 people in Syria, and the project we call it Project Bi-Star at the time, 2012, 2013 and train them outside the country on any kind of leadership, anything from political leadership, basics on economics, trying to develop a new exchange in different parts of the country. And, uh, and that was the work that we were doing and because it required all the stakeholders to be supportive of that, we ended up interacting with the top of the regime, top opposition. This is before major Islamist intervention, the country, ISIS and other groups in 2014. So the most radical groups at the time were the local Al-Qaeda, which is Nusra in that context.  So it was really before things completely fell apart. And when things started to fall apart, we stopped our project. But because we had this network of relationships to all the sides, we got contacted by both families and governments. And asking whether first of all, do you know what happened to this person? And secondly, if in fact he was kidnapped or held hostage, can we get proof of life? And then if you’re lucky enough to negotiate a release. So that was kind of the cascade, but it all started because of the work our foundation was doing, which is really often what happens. It’s not like our foundation is in the business of hostage negotiations. It’s, it’s really incidental to our work, but it happened. And even today, as we speak in 2021, there are, I am just aware of 13 Westerners without, I mean, Americans, Canadians, and Brits who are being held hostage in Syria, whose names have not made the public news. So I’m not talking about those who we know publicly about, so this is an underserved part of this dark underbelly of these wars that people don’t really talk about.

JORDAN: You mentioned in the book that most missing person cases in Syria don’t have happy endings. So it’s actually kind of got to be a bit heartbreaking to work on a dozen or two dozen missing persons cases. Just knowing that the odds are really stacked against finding this person happy and healthy or, or possibly at all. 

DANIEL: It is. And in fact, we know when this story took place, this was in late 2014, I was done, I didn’t want to do this anymore. And I got roped into this story, because I just had a really bad experience where I was asked to help with the hostage negotiation. And about two days before I was supposed to really enter the negotiation physically and meet them in Syria, they executed the hostage. And I had worked on that for nine months, got to know the family and everything. So I was really done with this. I didn’t want to do this anymore. And 2014, it was particularly hard year. This was the year, the fall of that was where the James Foley got decapitated put on YouTube and Steven Sotloff. And then, you know, Peter Kassig, a few of the seven journalists in particular, but also aid workers. And so I really didn’t want to do this anymore. I’d had a really bad experience in 2013, also. So for the very few moments where you can give families just good news, that their hostage is alive. In the very rare moments that you can negotiate a release, you have so much heartbreak. I was done and I was roped into this under sort of false pretense. I was asked into a meeting and the person just broke down in front of me. And I felt like I couldn’t just walk away. So, uh, it is really hard. And even today, when I’m asked for help, it’s very hard to deal with more than one of these situations at a time, just emotionally. And usually I try also not to get too involved with a family. I try to communicate with the family themselves as little as possible, and usually in writing, because once you are vested and you really feel part of it, you just don’t have the distance anymore to make good decisions.

JORDAN: What kind of decisions would require you to be more cold or calculated? Cause it sounds like you don’t want to, you want to sort of minimize, I’m trying to say this without making you sound bad, because of course it doesn’t. It makes you sound effective. You sort of want to minimize the amount of empathy you have, right. In a way, I mean, what you’re doing is, is admirable. And it’s sort of like the most sympathetic act that you can have, but you’re also trying to make sure you don’t cloud your emotions, but what sort of decisions require that during a negotiation like this. 

DANIEL: You know, a hostage negotiation of wars, and I know you’ve spoken to a lot of hostage negotiators. I’m not talking about the tactics of interacting with the hostage takers. I’m just talking first of all, about the basic logical constellation and the geopolitics of it. So even in Syria, where theor, if it’s the regime that told someone that’s a completely different approach than let’s say the Islamist groups that hold someone. Sometimes people are taken hostage just for the shock value of executing them. One thing that’s common to most hostage situations in wars in Syria in particular, is that you do not want to drive up the perceived value of the hostage in the names of the hostage takers. And that means, the first thing you have to do is tell the parents to stop doing something that they want to do. And that every schmuck under the sun and from government to other kinds of advisors telling them to do, which is to seek public support, right? To get public statements, to do Facebook campaigns and t-shirt campaigns, and have the Secretary of State say how we’re not going to leave a stone unturned until this awful act is being brought to justice and how no one’s going to rest until so-and-so comes home. All those kinds of campaigns really hurt you because all it does in the eyes of the hostage takers is convince them that they have a really high value asset, usually a much higher value than they actually have. And so what just happens with that is your price went up before you even started negotiation. So the first thing you have to do is really be cold to the parents and ask them to stop doing. And from experience, I’ve learned that usually just ask them to do it. They don’t want to hear that, right, because of all these people, we’re supposed to know what they’re doing from, you know, The State Department, Special Envoy for Hostage negotiations, to anyone else claiming, you know, that these public campaigns are really good, but they don’t realize that everyone doing those campaigns is a vested interest. Right? It’s kind of like a divorce lawyer has a vested interest in having an acrimonious divorce. Cause that’s the only way they make money. It’s the same thing here. So all the PR campaigns, all the communication advisors, the Congressman from the district, he’s thinking about his next reelection. So the fact that he or she, right, so they’re going to pass the resolution on the floor and they’re going to condemn the evil hostage takers and so on. And all that does is piss them off and drive up the value. So you have to convince the family to do that. And usually just explaining is not going to do the trick. Because they really want to hear that those expressions of empathy that they perceive that way are in their interests. So you always get to a point where you say, look, you can do this with me or not do this with me. If you’re gonna not do this with me, I really, really wish you all the best just to understand what you’re going to do with the campaign that you’re doing right now is going to get your child or your spouse killed. And that’s a hard thing to say to a parent. It’s extremely harsh. I wouldn’t want anyone to say that to me. But this is one of the first things you’re doing. So you haven’t established months, sometimes years of trust. At some point they realize that you know what you’re doing. So all they have is who’s this guy, he may have come recommended, but who’s this guy telling us that we have to stop talking to the media, right? And it’s a really perverse thing. People are mourning, but they really want to have that connection to the outside world. They delude themselves in thinking that, you know, these t-shirt campaigns are going to be reported back to their son or their husband who is in a Syrian prison somewhere in a basement somewhere. So there’s all these strange things. So if you really managed to do this like an algorithm, basically everything would go dark. And the first thing you’d convince the hostage takers is that the hostages is of very little value, can’t say no value because then they just execute and discard it. So it has to be little value. Then you can approach them and say, listen, man, you have a few chips in your hand. They’re expiring chips. Let’s see what we can do to cash them. What can you get for those chips? Just understand, at some point, they start to expire, but you can’t do that either before you know what it is they would need, because if they then say, well, we want ABC, and you’re not able to deliver that. That’s a death sentence too. So there’s a lot of nuance and also timing nuance in this process. But the first thing is to get the families to stop talking and stop engaging people to talk and asking all the politicians who claim to be the friends to also shut up.

JORDAN: Wow, this can’t be easy. Like you said, right. Because of course they’re writing their senator and their senators like great. I’m going to go on CNN right now and tell everyone to get behind you, which will apply pressure to maybe even the president and certainly the armed forces. And you’re like, great, we’re on the right track. And then you got these jihadis or Syrian, uh, secular army authoritarian crazies watching it and going, oh, we thought we had some journalist or a backpacker. But now we’ve got some guy whose parents are friends with the senator of this state. So we sh we were going to ask for $500,000, but now we should get like $5 million. Or some media, we should drag this out as long as possible, because they’re going to give us media attention if we keep this guy around. So he’s more valuable in the basement for the next three years than he is just a cash grab, which is awful.

DANIEL: It’s exactly right. That’s exactly right. And then the other stuff you want to stop, you also want to stop a Secretary of State and traveling to Syria. And inquiring about it. Cause all they’re going to hear is, oh, of course we don’t know what happened to this hostage. We’re totally on your side while the hostage is dying in their basement, obviously. So all they do is just enforce the hostage takers conviction that time is on their side. And that’s really dangerous because if they think that the value of the hostage will just go up, when in fact the likelihood that this hostage will die, because they’re extremely difficult circumstances, even without COVID obviously to survive many years in captivity, from depression to just physical health, to accidents that can happen to a bombing campaign that you don’t know. There’ve been cases of hostages who were killed by friendly fire from allied forces because it didn’t know that the, some building held a hostage in the basement, right? There’s human shield. So time is never your friend, but the problem is the more you publicly do, the more your government publicly does, the more the hostage takers in fact are convinced that the value just goes up with time. If they have to hold the person for 10 years, so be it. And, and very few hostages survive 10 years in captivity.

JORDAN: Yeah, I remember there was a story a while back about, I think it was a female, maybe she was military, but she ended up becoming, and I’m putting this in quotes, cause it’s a disgusting situation. I guess one of these like sort of clerics married her and used her as a wife. In a very sort of disgusting way. And then eventually they found out that she most likely died in a U.S. airstrike, which is awful, but also seems to be leagues better than the situation she had previously been in.

DANIEL: There’s a case of an American Kayla Mueller who, uh, was actually kidnapped and was one of al-Baghdadi the leader of ISIS of his brides essentially. It’s debatable whether she died in an American airstrike or whether he actually had to executed in early 2015. So these are really heartbreaking stories, but you don’t, you don’t really know what to wish for obviously in those moments they’re all just heartbreaking.

JORDAN: It really is just sort of the height of human cruelty, right? These people are stuck in just terrible circumstances for 10 years. Their kids are growing up, their families sort of grieved and moved on, but with no real closure at all, and…It’s just such a horrific fate, right? You’re losing years of your life, your health, your kids think that you’re dead. You miss…I, you know, I have a two year old now and a baby on the way, and I just can’t even imagine what if I’m gone for the next decade. They don’t know who you are. It’s almost better to just be murdered depending on how long you’re going to be there, given the horrific conditions, the lack of health care and just the, the not knowing.

DANIEL: Yeah, it’s a miracle to me every time I interact with someone who manages to get out, and I realize just how strong that desire to persevere and survive must have to be because people really endure the most horrific things imaginable. So it’s inspiring, actually. And something that keeps me going is the few cases of success that you say, okay, we’ll just kind of makes sense because there’s so much heartbreak in that. And I’ve seen even hostages come out of captivity and their families and their lives still break apart because they really never overcome PTSD that they, this massive trauma that they’ve suffered in that time.

JORDAN: Yeah, I can imagine. It’s quite understandable. So what is proof of life actually? And I know it’s the title of the book, of course, but this might be a dumb question for those of us who do know, but for many of us who are not in the kidnap for hire business or an adjacent business, we might need a little refresher on, on what that means.

DANIEL: So it’s just some background. When you have a hostage negotiation, especially in a war zone, what happens is that the first thing, actually that happens in the hardest thing to do is to actually figure out who the hostage takers are, because the first thing that happens when someone goes missing in that case is made public. And it’s usually unfortunately, made public before I’m asked to help. Otherwise I would say don’t make it public. Is that this industry of mercenaries, of advisors, communication, advisors, middlemen, gatekeeper, they all emerged from the woods. And they started offering their services. And what happens within days, certainly within weeks is that you don’t really know who’s giving you real information, getting knocking. And the rumors are off the charts. Every single hostage situation I’ve been involved in, by the time I talked to the parents, they tell me of several cases of someone who knows someone who knows someone who saw their son. Right. And it’s always the same story. He looked really thin. He had a beard, his hair was kind of thin. He looked really unkempt. It’s always the same version of something that’s made to sound like they know what they’re doing. And usually, almost always, these reports are wrong. So the hardest thing in the course of a negotiation is to know that you’re talking with the people who actually have the person and that you want to know of course, that the person is still alive. And so for those two elements, you need to essentially authenticate. It’s no different than authenticating any communication, right? And the way you do that is with some form of questions, it’s ot enough to do the old sort of 1970s, red brigades thing with a picture in a newspaper and anything like that, because you can fake so much of that today. Deep fakes are so amazing. So what you really have to do is a key question that only the hostage can answer. So you interact with a family, you ask them for some question or some, tell. Some nickname, something that no one would be able to know. And whoever the gatekeeper, the mercenary, the intermediaries, who claims that they have some information to them. Ask them for that, ask them what, you know, what is my son’s favorite meal, whatever it is that. And if they don’t come back with it, you know, what was the name of his first girlfriend? What’s the name of the hamster that he flushed down the toilet when he was three years old, whatever it is. Right. And if they can’t come back with that answer, you walk away. It’s do immediate triage. You don’t even engage. Don’t listen to the news. Cause usually what they say is, well, I may not be able to answer that, but let me give you some information that might save your son’s life. Most people don’t have the sort of Dr. Spock-like, you know, algorithm ability to just say, stop don’t talk to me anymore because anything that’s coming after now is going to be nonsense. Right? So they still want to hear you’re holding on clinging desperately to desire to hear anything. And so proof of life is getting that type of authentication. It’s not so much only that the person is alive, but rather that you’re actually communicating with the people who are holding the person. And that’s key. If you can’t establish that, it’s the first thing you have to do. Before we try and find out where the person is before we figure out what kind of a rescue plan, what kind of a package to trade in, what all of those things. First thing you have to know is who has them and in what condition is the person.

JORDAN: Yeah. That’s interesting. You mentioned the red brigades is this is the, the OG sort of proof of life is have them stand there, holding a copy of today’s New York Times or something with the date visible on the cover. But yeah, like you said now, I mean, you’re just a really clever Photoshop away from being able to do that with any sort of photo that they might’ve had, that could be years old at that point. It sort of reminds me of how in online dating, you know, with catfishing where you’re not sure if you’re talking to somebody who’s living three towns away or is like a scammer from an African country or some Eastern European place. You say like, send me a picture of yourself, holding three fingers up on your right cheek and your thumb up of your other hand. And then they’re like, uh, I got to go, it’s time for work or something. You know, they make up a bunch of excuses and, and, or you never hear from them again. Right? 

DANIEL: Yeah. I’m really,  I’m really happy. I met my wife before online dating. 

JORDAN: Yeah, me too. 

DANIEL: Never had a phone for that.

JORDAN: I met Jen before all that, and now friends are like, oh, you know, I met with this person, and there’s a million different issues with it. Not to sort of trivialize what we’re talking about here on the show, but yeah, there’s a whole…Just making sure somebody is who they say they are turns out to be a whole art in itself in, in many contexts. So you get this sort of secret questions. I think one of the ones from the book was the missing guy had a favorite food that wasn’t just like spaghetti and meatballs. It was something a little bit more unique. The hamster that he flushed down the toilet when he was three years old,  sounds like something that would be really…What you’re looking for is something that’s basically impossible to fake and that isn’t in documentation somewhere on the internet.

DANIEL: Right. Right. And in this case it was a character from The Jungle Book. And it was something that no one would ever guess, a reverse engineer. It’s kind of the same thing. As you know, you don’t use your birthday for, as your password for your ATM card or something like that. You tried something a little bit different and something memorable. So it’s pretty easy to agree what proof of life signals would be. And if you can’t get that, it doesn’t mean you stop the search of the negotiation. But you go at it in a completely different way. In other words, it’s not like I’m a purist about it, I’m not going to talk to anyone who can’t authenticate that I’m talking to the right person. Cause most hostage negotiations in war zones require you to work like an onion. You’re peeling and peeling and peeling before you even get there. It’s not like I fly in somewhere and just say, okay, well then I have a question to ask the person, don’t waste my time without that. It’s that you’re even trying to get close to the group that might be able to answer that question. So there are layers of games and counter games and their chips you’re caching and all kinds of three party deals, essentially just to get close to the group. But when you get there, that’s the part you need to do. 

JORDAN: What is the difference in dealing with these types of groups? You mentioned it’s different. If your loved one gets kidnapped by the Syrian government versus an Islamic group, what, how do you sort of figure out what these groups want?

DANIEL: And first of all, there’s this really  big difference, which is the Syrian government, if they kidnapped someone, you have to have a major favor that you can do for them in order to get a release. Because what happens is the moment they kidnap a Westerner, they can’t admit that they have him. So in other words, the time gap between when they start the negotiation and when it’s concluded is maybe a day. Because the moment they admit that they have this person, if this person dies, you’re triggering all kinds of wratch from sanctions to potential t omahawk missiles. So they’d never ever admit it. There isn’t a case where’d ever admit it. When you have handouts with those Syrian government, no one ever finds out that it took place. There’s no public press conference. The person returns. Because they really don’t want their fingerprints on it. And very often the government has it, not because they want it to take the Westerner, but because one of their militias that works with them, like in Syria, for example, this should be Shabiha, you have these thugs, these steroid infused thugs that roam the streets and the, on the coastal area in Aleppo and in Damascus. They take hostages, deliver them at the state prison. Didn’t ask for them, but now they have them. Right. And it’s kind of the pottery barn rule. Right. They break it, they own it. So they don’t really admit it. You’re in a completely different situation. Whereas the Islamist groups, you have to make a big distinction, which is, do they have the hostage because they want to trade for something? Money, attention, whatever it is? Or they have the hostage because they want to execute it publicly for recruitment and shock value? And you have to make that brutal distinction. I’ve been in situations where I knew that it was the latter, and I had to go back to the parents and say, look, I’m going to do what I can, but you have to understand where we are. We have to be honest about that. And it’s the hardest conversation to have, which is because they’re basically waiting for the child’s execution. 

JORDAN: Oh God. That’s so horrible. I have got journalist friends that do crazy things like sneak into Syria across the Turkish border. And the Turkish troops are shooting at them. And I’m thinking, you’re lucky if you get hit instead of kidnapped in Syria,

DANIEL: Tell them all to stop doing that. 95% of the cases I got involved in in Syria where people thought, oh, we’re just going to go in. Cause we were told it’s okay. And then they don’t even realize that the people who take them in already work for the groups that are going to kidnap them. Drive them straight to the prison. 

JORDAN: Oh my gosh. 

DANIEL: So yeah. If anyone ever tells you to have a great idea. I know people who thought that they know aspiring journalists, who couldn’t get their newspapers published and just desperately trying to write war reports, trying to be this great war reporters that they just can’t be and they can’t get their pitches even answered. And then they say, you know what I’m going to do. I’m just going to go into Aleppo and I’m going to take some photoshoot and report from that. And that’s going to win me a Pulitzer. They’re starting to think through that kind of stuff. They make it 10 minutes in and they connect with someone in, in Southern Turkey. And that person speaks broken English and says, oh, I know where I can get you in and out just like that. You know, within an hour of being in Syria during the hands of ISIS, or Nusra any other of these rebel groups, that’s exactly how that goes. 

JORDAN: That is a nightmare scenario. This is one of the most horrible fates I feel like you can meet as a…This just doesn’t even compare to being drowned or in a house that’s burning down. I mean, it’s, you’ve come into contact with some of these people and some of these characters are in the book. These are, I would say the worst living people on the planet right now are kind of congregating in this area. And in this particular industry, dealing with human trafficking and kidnapping and hostage taking, I mean, I can’t really think of worse humans. I don’t know if you know if you can. 

DANIEL: Well, it’s funny. I mean, obviously you see you’re in the midst of a thriving war economy, and whenever you’re in a thriving war economy, you see the ugliest side of human beings, right? So whether someone’s trading in blankets or, or water, mineral water, or in little girls taken from their villages sold into prostitution or Western hostages or drugs or chemical weapons, it’s all the same. Once you’re in a war economy, there’s no moral distinction. There’s this amphetamine captagon that I write about it in the book that’s being massively traded fueling war. So once you’re in a war economy, you see the ugliest side of humans, but there are a couple of things I want to add to that when we were handing out kind of human ugliness awards here. And I want to be clear about that because I feel this really strongly. And I live this really strongly. If you’re going to look about the ugly side of humans, then there are some enabling groups that you should be including in this. So for example, the astronomical cash profits that these war economics turn out whether it’s human trafficking, weapons trades, you name it, drug trade. Those cash profits have to be formalized, legalized, laundered in our financial system. There are top blue chip, top 20 Western banks that fly planes into capitals in Southeast Asia to pick up containers full of cash and put them into their vaults for the sake of, for a 30, 40% discount. Use then the cash money to fund the Russian cash economy because of sanctions is purely dollar based, and are exactly part of this war. No different from even the guy who manufacturers captagon, some amphetamine in a lab and trades it for some 13 year old girl that he then serially rapes for the next half year. So to me, I’m very careful with these kinds of moral distinctions. And the other angle, the other category, which I’m going to add on here, I know it’s inflammatory, but I’ll say it cause I feel it doesn’t have to have no incentive to hold back. Is that if you’re talking specifically about journalists, the little dirty secret of a war zone, such as Syria, which is particularly ugly, is that the top newspapers, whether you’re talking New York Times, Washington Post, Frankfurter Allgemeine, Lemoore, doesn’t really matter. Okay. The Financial Times. I don’t really want to send their own staff and correspondence to those wars for understandable reasons. So what you happen is you basically have these so-called freelancers that are often college kids, people just out of college, can’t quite figure it out. And they’re saying, Hey, you know, I’m going to go there. And they’re incentivizing them to take on those stories and take on risks these kids are completely unprepared for. I know you hear of the big stories like Marie Colvin, the journalist who with the eyepatch, who was killed in Syria and the war or James Foley, who was decapitated. Those are journalists who are experienced experienced other wars. But most of the journalists who get killed in a place like Syria or Yemen, or Libya are freelancers who are really trying to make a name for themselves. And so, and they’re being exploited, if I can use that word, by the media platforms that would never send their own. I’m not even saying their own children. I’m even talking about their own staff journalists to those areas. So there is an angle to this that’s really unsavory. And this goes, it’s very easy to condemn the drug dealer and the weapons dealer. And we should. And it’s hideous beyond description, but I think the enabling industries that exist well outside these war zones deserve a little bit of shame in this context too. 

JORDAN: Yeah. I agree with you. I’m going to be doing a show about Western enabling or just enabling in general of a lot of these yeah, money laundering, frankly. I mean, we’ve, I dunno if you’re familiar with the book Billion Dollar Whale.

DANIEL: Tom Wright and Bradley Hope are good friends.

JORDAN: Yeah. They’re great guys. I’m in contact with them and it’s just, it’s disgusting how we’ll go. Oh man. Look at these Cayman islands. People are stashing money, try South Dakota, the HQ, one of the world headquarters of just illegal money laundering operations and shell corporations and things like that. And like, you said, private jets full of cash. There are law firms, and it’s not just most excellent Mossack Fonseca and Panama, you know, with the Panama Papers, there are law firms in the United States where guys who are going to Michigan Law, like me, get out and get a job there. And don’t even necessarily fully understand what they’re doing, but sure enough are working for a partner who’s maybe running a bunch of money from, like you said, the captagon trade and just cleaning it on up. And hoovering up that money for fees and there’s a lot of it. And it really is, you’re right. There’s a reason the law treats accessories to crimes similar to the actual criminal, right? Like you might not have a 13-year-old Syrian village girl locked up in your basement, but if you are laundering money for human traffickers, you are guilty of that crime and you’re right. It might be easy to sort of look at yourself in the mirror, sleep at night, knowing that you’re not really getting your hands dirty, or as dirty as the guy who’s got, the girls locked up in cages in his basement, but you’re really the same, the same type of awful human.

DANIEL: I’ve lived and experienced this now for decades and my job. So for instance, The Gaddafi’s money guy in Libya, Bashir Saleh Bashir, who for 30 years was basically taking billions of dollars of cash out of the country, putting it into warehouses all over the world, especially in Southeast Asia, like Indonesia and Jakarta. And then having Western banks flying their planes and taking it into their volts. All right. And then that money just disappears because now it’s part of the swift. And that’s before cryptocurrency, which is a total game changer when it comes to this. And so that same guy, Bashir Saleh Bashir is now in Abu Dhabi who fled to South Africa first was very involved in, in challenging Sarcosy, which led to the fall of Gaddafi. That’s a story for another time. That’s the same guy who has been involved in laundering some of the captagon profits from the Syrian war. And there’s an axis with Abu Dhabi to that. So these things are all connected and I’m not trying to, this is not some kind of a crusade against Western banks and things like that. All I’m saying is if we really want to stop these dreadful wars, we have to stop these war economies from thriving because these wars…Really serve in war. The country is destroyed. It’s wiped out. It’s burnt down, whatever metaphor you want to use. The only reason this war is still going on is because the war economy is just throwing off these astronomical profits. You want to stop this war. You want to stop refugees, mass migration, this broken countries, broken cultures, broken generations. You have to start cutting off the war economy. And you’re not going to do that without all the outside willing helpers. And I’m not just talking willing helpers in terms of sleazy bankers or trustees, you know, in Panama or in Dakotas or wherever, Cayman Island, it doesn’t really matter. I’m also talking about having interesting breakout sessions at the World Economic Forum in Davos with some of these individuals. At some point, or if you don’t want to do that, and you say, look, man, it’s pure capitalism. That’s how it is. Then let’s stop the moral grandstanding. Let’s just, just spare me that part please. And then let’s just, then that’s fine. Then these wars exist. As long as there are profits to be made. But the part that’s so hard to take is this gap between the ugly reality and these empty hollow moral statements that you’re hearing the whole time.


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JORDAN: There’s a lot of, yeah, you said it best grandstanding, right? It’s just, we can’t believe all this is going on. And then it’s like, well, don’t you own 300,000 shares of whatever bank is laundering all this money, or are you not also supplying a bunch of drugs, money, or even just supporting this and pretending that you’re lobbying for a legitimate cause when you’re really just keeping the border open for illegal petroleum exports, whatever it is. Cause it sounds like what you’re saying is the money’s just so good that it can’t be ignored, but at the same time, people feel the need to sort of whitewash their reputation by saying, Hey, I’m not doing that. And it’s like, look, if you’re, if you’re doing this, what we need to do is just admit it and then talk about it. Otherwise it’s just going to keep going. Cause you’re right. It almost sort of makes it impossible to stop if we’re going to pretend like we’re against it. As opposed to just admitting that we’re not really doing anything. Right.

DANIEL: Right. And, and I’m not, I’m not some shareholder activists trying to take down big banks or anything like that. But it’s particularly for me, it’s particularly grading when I deal with it on the political level. When I know for example, that I can’t get State Department officials to stop talking. You know, I know that someone, a hostage is being held by a regime, and they keep on making these grand statements condemning, you know, this illegal taking and the journalist should be free. And the answer is: How is that helping that hostage? Answer that question. How is pissing off the people who hold that person’s life in their hands, helping you? And the answer to that of course, is they don’t really care about the hostage. They care about that little three minute press conference they might give, or how many likes they get when they tweet this little statement of theirs. And so you have to also tell parents, they’re you, you have to understand that you don’t know who your friend here is. So it’s not just about going after banks and all the enablers. But again, with respect to journalists, I have a particular bone to pick with newspapers and media companies who would take advantage of young kids who are completely unprepared for war zones. If you’re going to send people there or accept their work, then you at least have to prepare them. Do you understand that they, how to use satellite phones? How did they deal with their passport? Do they have more than one passport? Do they leave their passport with someone else? How do they connect with any diplomatic representation in particular, if their own country doesn’t have one there? You really train them through that. Do they have a safe, house, do they have a connection to the police chief there locally? All those things that you would go through on a protocol level with journalists, they’re never prepared for it. So when that moment comes, and it always comes in a war zone. So when that moment comes, they have no idea. They just have no idea. And so it is really unsavory at so many levels. It’s super easy to look at the drug dealer and the pimp and the weapons dealer, and look at them and think this is just scum. But, you know, I have a slightly more expansive definition of that term.

JORDAN: Mhm. This actually makes. It really is young folks coming out of college and just not being able to get their shot. Anderson Cooper talked about this on the show. He said, no one would talk to him, which is surprising just given his pedigree, but nobody would really talk to him. So he was doing sort of like mailroom stuff. And then he picked up a like a cheap camera and went to Somalia. And this is like the nineties, you know, Somalia was the Iraq, Afghanistan, whatever it is of the nineties. And he just sort of slid on over there with commercial flights and cars, trucks, whatever it was and started filming. And, you know, luckily didn’t get chopped up into little pieces. But now it seems like such a, it’s even just a more hellish landscape in terms of the conflict itself. And like I said, I’ve got guys my age, or younger crawling through holes in fences in the Syrian border with Turkey, and then running into the nearest town on a, in the back of a pickup truck to take photographs and do write-ups. I think a lot of them just don’t realize how close they were to ending up in the basement of a Syrian prison.

DANIEL: Right. Yeah. I mean, it’s, uh, by the time I get involved, it’s usually too late, obviously. And so I get so angry. I’ve had these conversations with senior people at major newspapers and TV programs and said, you know, this is just reckless. What you’re doing is so wrong, you have to explain this to people. And they said, well, we’re not forcing them to take those risks. The answer is. You’re taking advantage of them, you know full well this is someone who wants to make his or her name in journalism. That you know full well that the way to do that as be a little more reckless than anyone else and take risks, no one else would take. And they’re either going, they’re unprepared. It’s one thing to go to Switzerland unprepared, to go to Sicily unprepared, to wherever, it doesn’t really matter. Morocco unprepared. It’s a whole different thing to have someone go into Syria unprepared.

JORDAN: You mentioned captagon. This is a drug that sort of made a cameo or two here on the show with people mentioning it casually. What is a captagon? And well, where does it come from? What is this? It seems to be sort of trending up in the Middle East and especially in the war zones.

DANIEL: Yeah. Captagon is not a new drug, actually. Captagon is a drug that has existed since the early sixties. It was developed in Germany, not surprisingly by a company called Chemiewerk Homburg. And it was initially treated as medication, sort of is similar to ADD, ADHD medication. And then was pulled entirely out of medical market within a few years because of the high toxicity level in the heart and the blood that it degenerated. Not just usually addictive too. And what makes it so insidious is it’s extremely easy to manufacture. I mean, if you have sort of a high school chemistry set and a scale on some water, you can make captagon. By the way not so dissimilar. I dunno if you’re aware of this drug, this amphetamine called Pervitin that the Germans used in the Second World War. It was something that German scientists had developed, which had a big role in the Blitzkrieg. The reasons that the Germans were able to basically travel to Western Europe, to Belgium Holland for four days without sleeping a lot of the Wehrmacht officers, less access, was because of this amphetamine mean that they were having. There were rumors that Hitler was taking, it was on it himself, was also therefore really sleep deprived. But so captagon I’m very similar properties to that. And in, in Syria, the manufacturing of captagon really exploded with the war itself, and it was just basically mass manufacturing and caused an epidemic in Saudi Arabia. I have a Saudi friend, a medical doctor who told me that he suspects that 50% of Saudi males under 25, take captagon. And it’s become a date rape drug. 

JORDAN: 50%?

DANIEL: He suspects of Saudis under 25, just this crazy number. There when they find captagon gun. And it comes in all kinds of ways. It’s often delivered in blister packs to make it look like medicine. When they find it, the haul is often worth five, 6 billion U.S. dollars. Those are the kinds of volumes. It’s now making way into Southern Europe, into the Italian, Spanish and Portuguese border. And then from there to Northern Europe, a lot of it now in France, it’s an extremely insidious drug. And the profits are just astronomical because it costs almost nothing to make.

JORDAN: Five or $6 billion street value makes submarine full of cocaine look like child’s play. 

DANIEL: Yeah, the, the margins are off the charts. Cause it really, it not only costs nothing to do with cost, almost nothing to distribute. Also in a lot of the captagon dealers that talk about this in my book, because the people who held this young men hostage, where the biggest captagon traders in the country. By the way, one of the people who started the captagon business in the war, was the uncle of the current president, the president was  Bashar al-Assad. That was Hafez al-Assad. And the father, late father, the brother, his brother, Rifaat al-Assad, who was just convicted last summer in a French court. And he was the one that really started to profit massively off the drug trade so that the intersection, they’re various groups making money of that. Some regime, some opposition, Hezbollah has its hand in captagon. And obviously a lot of these freelancers, but the person I ended up, I had to flag down and find who held the, this Westerner hostage. What’s probably the biggest captagon dealer in the country. And they often use the same distribution routes for the captagon as they do for the, for example, the human trafficking. So the same people would take little girls from villages and send them to the Gulf, to Dubai, to Riyadh in Saudi Arabia, to other places there. Primarily those two places though. They use the same distribution routes. Very often they fill also stomachs of the girls with drugs, not only captagon , with other drugs and use them as couriers while also basically shipping them as the product itself. 

JORDAN: That’s horrible. I mean, this is just so dark, the captagon, I’ve heard. Hasn’t made it to the necessarily, or hasn’t turned it up in the U.S. just because we have to put it bluntly more effective, sort of better drugs that do the same thing. Like what does it methamphetamine, like different kinds of methamphetamine or something like that. Would you agree with that? 

DANIEL: Yeah. Yeah. I mean, it’s just, the margins would be too small because you’re breaking into a saturated market right now. Whereas the market in Saudi Arabia and in Southern Europe is not nowhere nearly as saturated, unfortunately, because of the meth epidemic that we have in this country it is a saturated market. So that’s pure supply and demand thing. There’s such a massive amount of supply in this, despite the huge demand, that your margins have to be really small. So it’s just not attractive. I mean, this-drugs really follow very simple, you know, Adam Smith, invisible hand rules. It’s really simple.

JORDAN: It’s interesting that we’re-the United States is bulletproofed from captagon because we’re addicted to so many other things that it just-there’s no room for it. That’s like a depressing humor in a way, almost like a ridiculous sort of notion that we just like, Hey, we have no room in our drug market because we have so many other drugs that we can’t get free from that there’s no room for a captagon. Unbelievable. By the way, side note, totally different topic here. You mentioned that in one of the characters in the book enjoyed going to the top of the Eiffel Tower to a hidden apartment there, is there really an apartment at the top of the Eiffel tower? 

DANIEL: Yeah. They used to be Gustave Eiffel. The builder of the tower actually lived there for a while. That’s where it was. Okay. What had happened in the book was that the person who asked me for help, I met him in Paris for dinner. I didn’t know what he wanted from me. And then we walked through Paris at night, and we did this kind of loop that he loves to do. Where at some point you turn over or you turn around a corner and you see the Eiffel Tower lit up and it was something he always felt was beautiful. And then, then that’s what it was reminiscent of that top of secret apartment, that Gustave Eiffel, builder of the tower kept for himself. And definitely the best, one of the best real estate pieces I would think of worldwide. Right? 

JORDAN: Yeah. I was going to say that has to be the most valuable, one of the most valuable properties anywhere on the planet, like owning your own island. No, thanks. So that’s for plebes. I live at the top of the Eiffel Tower in the middle of Paris. I mean, that’s…

DANIEL: We should probably keep this a secret. There’s going to be some tech billionaire and feels like that’s exactly what it needs to have. So maybe we shouldn’t advertise this. 

JORDAN: We’ll be done with that, I suppose.You mentioned that you don’t ask for compensation when you are trying to help missing people be-the hostage negotiations or look for missing persons. Why don’t you ask for compensation?

DANIEL: I can’t. I’ll explain this. First of all, you know, th the work that we do w w it’s really incidental to have a foundation work. So my work is, and the foundation’s work is covered by the budget of the foundation. So, number one, so there’s no need to ask for compensation, first of all. But the bigger issue is it’s two-fold. First of all, I don’t get involved in ransom negotiations. And the reason I don’t do that is a personal conviction, based on my own days, back to the military, in Israeli military, where I’m deeply convinced that the moment you open up discussions for ransom, you basically, even if you get someone out, he just insured 10 new hostages. It’s just a personal principle. I understand that it’s heartbreaking. And you just have to step away in situations. There were cases, including an American in Syria, where I was asked to get involved by a politician. And when I called my friend to see if there was anything we could do, he said, don’t touch this one. They’re negotiating a ransom behind your back that would be paid by the Catelli’s. And this person ended up getting out because the ransom was paid. But what I know is he gets out, 10 more people get taken, and I don’t want that on my hands. That’s number one. The second thing is when you start getting involved with ransom negotiations, Jordan, if you think this through, think about the dynamics that happen. Let’s say there is a $1 million ransom request. Okay. Well that doesn’t come directly to me, that comes through layers of gatekeepers, couriers, intermediaries, representatives. By the time that number reaches me, that’s $10 million. First of all. Second of all, the moment you have a financial interest, you become vulnerable. Meaning that the moment any money changes hands, and I don’t just mean $10 million. I mean a cup of coffee, a meal, a flight, a hotel, a driver, whatever favor that has monetary value, that gets thrown your way. I don’t even accept meal invitations. The moment there’s any monetary value, people start rumors that you got perks and benefits out of it that you didn’t share. And that’s the way to pressure you. Even, in fact, in the course of my story, someone said they would spread that kind of a rumor, even it wasn’t true here just for the sake of getting something out of me. So the moment money gets involved. It moves you away from resolving the case. Now I’m not saying you can’t do something. There is no quid pro quo. It just can’t be monetary. So to give an example, uh, there’ve been hostage negotiations where a relative of a hostage taker had breast cancer, a mother had breast cancer. Couldn’t get treatment for a number of reasons. There was the hospitals in the country were working or the family was sanctioned. So she couldn’t travel abroad for treatment as an example. And so through a network of favors, if you can arrange for this person to get treatment in Cyprus or in Germany. And this is just one example that I just went through, that’s a quid pro quo you can offer. Those are favors that change hands, but no one’s enriching him or herself personally in that process, but it gets much less cluttered if you take money completely off the table. And so that’s sort of the Reader’s Digest version to your question. It gets much more intricate, but every time money changes hands, it’s almost impossible to get involved. Unless it’s a, flat-out huge ransom payment some outside government pays, and I don’t want to get involved in those cases.

JORDAN: Yeah. That makes sense. It just generates demand. You go to Lebanon to meet this schick and he seems extremely intense. What, what is he like a terror financier? Is that kind of his position?

DANIEL: No, this is someone who’s well-known. This is someone who who’s been sanctioned by the U.S. ever since the eighties. So anyone who reads the footnotes in the books carefully will know who it is, but I made him a promise that I would use a pseudonym when he agreed to help. This is the head of a very powerful head of a political movement, and a military movement in Lebanon. I had to use this, I mean, the condition for being able to write this book, I got everyone’s consent involved, except for the evil people. And I named them and shamed them. It’s not like they get pseudonyms. But the people get pseudonyms are the victims. And the two girls, I talk about. The person that was kidnapped himself. And a few other people who made their support conditional upon being used on these pseudonyms. And that was one of them. And it was critical because he was the one who directed me to, he basically put me on the trail of the people who had this hostage. 

JORDAN: This guy is extremely intense. The reason I sort of try to tease that out is because you can read the footnotes, but also it’s, if you don’t really know your way around this sort of conflict, it doesn’t really mean anything to you, but the guy is extremely, it’s like street smarts, but level 100. You know, you, you don’t just put your phone away, but he sends a handler to deal with you and evaluate you beforehand and take the flight with you and sit next to you to sort of feel you out. And the handler who’s intense in his own way gives you this tip and he says, don’t beat him with the fist of flattery, I think. Right. It was what he said, which is, this is actually a really useful concept. Can you tell us about this? I had never heard that, but I like it.

DANIEL: Yeah.So the way the whole meeting came up is through a, the person who’s I feel like almost as a mentor or a father figure for me as someone called Khalid al-Marri, who’s Saudi with a Syrian mother who is often, in most cases, especially in Syria and in the Gulf, the person who helps me in hostile situations. And he knows this militia leader, known him for many, many years, saved this person’s life at some point. And so this person always feels indebted to him. So when he called the militia leader and say, Hey, can you help with this particular hostage? The guy said, I’ll help, but you have to send the person who’s asking about him to me to see him. I have to see whether I’m going to trust him to share the information. And that was the deal. So I had to go have to basically see him what we call dark or blind, which is I flew from Istanbul to Beirut and landed in Beirut, middle of the night. And I didn’t fly by myself, which is this person sent one of his trusted deputies to pick me up in the lounge in Istanbul, and vet me both in the lounge throughout the flight and when we arrived. And if at any moment in that vetting process, I had failed. For whatever reason to been too inquisitive, too, chatty, not trustworthy. And in his mind, try to impress him too much, whatever it is that would have triggered it, he would have left me behind and it could have been in Istanbul, when we arrived in Beirut at any moment in this process. And then when we arrived in Beirut and it seemed to pass those tests, I had to give up all my phones. Passports, and phones, and that means I’m going completely blind, which is I’m surrendering entirely to this group. And this is a group that’s in South Beirut. It’s a very militant group, a very sp? group. Let’s use it in a nice way. But I knew that because the introduction had to be made through my friend, Khalid. I completely trusted him, and he wouldn’t send me in harm’s way, but it was still an extremely intense few hours. And this aid of this leader told me one thing, don’t do, don’t try to bamboozle the guy. Basically he’s saying don’t play the player. Don’t bullshit the bullshitter. Don’t shit the shitter. That kind of advice he’s giving me, which is, and it’s similar to the other advice a friend once told me, which is if in the room playing poker and you look around, can figure out the sucker is, good chance it’s you. And it’s the same thing here. Every smart person, and I mean really smart and wise, understands that when they’re being flattered, that the person who is flattering them is trying to claim them, gain them, get something out of them. And if you’re really enlightened in that sense, the thing you’ll be the most suspicious of is not someone who’s unpleasant or confrontational. You just don’t have to deal with that person if you don’t want to. But at least, you know, that you have. The, where you really have to be worried is when you get the flattery. And it’s something very strange about people in power, and you don’t have to go to comical proportions such as the last president. Even generally, people in power, people can be very shrewd, very smart to political economic power, media power. Doesn’t really matter. The one thing people seem really susceptible to is flattery. For some reason, that’s our blind spot. And I don’t mean when I say our, I just have to make the assumption, even if I don’t have power, that it’s just a human flaw. That people can figure out a way to flatter us in a way that we don’t notice. And we just enjoy the company of that person, right. It just releases particular endorphins that make us happy. And the advice I got here is it may be really stressful. It may be really hard. You may be sweating like a pig when he’d makes you uncomfortable, but be honest with him. If you give him a dumb answer or an answer he doesn’t like it’s always going to be preferable to giving him the sense of you’re trying to play him. And the re-if you flatter him, if you even the way you address him, don’t use those stupid honorific titles. He’s not your excellency, he’s not your majesty is not your whatever, uh, you just to call him sheikh. And that’s in fact what I had to address him as and just keep it real. And if he asked you a question, it may be hard, you maybe asked you about being Jewish and maybe ask you about America. I may ask you whatever it is. Give him an honest answer. I’m not saying you should go out of your way to insult him. But speak your mind and just be respectful. And it was really good advice because it was extremely intense few hours I spent in that what felt like an interrogation. I always felt safe in that way because he did see, even when he disagreed with me at some point, he said, look, I’m going to give you high marks for honesty, if not for intelligence. So there was an insult in there, but at least I knew I was safe. He didn’t get angry at me because he felt like I was trying to manipulate him. It was really smart advice.

JORDAN: That is interesting. Although I, I have to note that if he’s saying don’t use his honorific title, just call him sheikh. It’s kind of like saying, just use this other honorific title that I have.

DANIEL: Yeah, I know. And I wrote that in the book too, but it’s so diluted. Sheikh is really much more common, I think in the Gulf it’s, you know, in the, in the Gulf monarchies, UAE, Qatar, Saudi Arabia, Bahrain. People use the word “sheikh” with much more kind of pomp and circumstance. It’s much more puffed up. In the Lebanese, Levant kind of context, it’s really not used that way. I have friends, when they give me shit, they just say, Hey “sheikh,” how’s it going today? Arab friends of mine. So it’s really used in Palestine, Jordan, Syria. It’s really used much more colloquially that way. So it really didn’t have that flavor.

JORDAN: Got it. Okay. Cause that did sort of strike me as weird. You’re right. Did notice that you did write about that. I’d probably parked that in my brain. Cause I did think that was strange too. It’s like, no, no, no, let’s be informal. Call me Dr. Jordan Har-

DANIEL: Right? It’s like what’s no, no, you’re absolutely right. You’re absolutely right. And it’s in fact even occurred to me when he said it, but in the context that he said it, it didn’t feel that way at all.

JORDAN: In your conversation with him, he gave you some insight into why some of these groups hate the West. And I thought it was, this is fascinating, right? It’s not necessarily religious, even noted that the United States is more religious than Lebanon and many other Middle Eastern countries who, those countries have religious laws, but a sinful culture. And he thought America, of course also has a sinful culture, but has, is more sort of, I don’t know if pure is the right word, but like the people actually believe it. Whereas in some of the Middle Eastern countries, a lot of the people are just sort of performative because they have to be by law. It sounds like he mentioned that he doesn’t want America to succeed, but for reasons that seem totally backwards. Can you take us through this? Cause I I’m not even sure I got this right. Because it seems so insane to me, his explanation. 

DANIEL: Right. So w we ended up in this discussion, he was drawing me into a discussion. I was getting really both nervous and also impatient, because that was really there just to get information on this hostage. And he was drawing me into this whole religious, cultural of discussion. I mean, he was challenging my thoughts of Judaism and the fact that I hadn’t even realized that every time the symbol of the Eagle was involved, that the Jews were getting wiped out. It happened with the Romans, it happened with the Germans, and it’s going to happen in America through a simulation with American Eagle. So it was really fascinating stuff, but it was also, I was getting kind of like, can we just get on, can you just give me the information I’m here for, but I could never really say that. He also gets into civil rights in America and misunderstanding Martin Luther king and Malcolm X, and the distinction between the two, was really fascinating stuff. And one thing that he mentioned to me is, you know, that, that you said you and the West, you really don’t understand is you think we hate America. You think we just resent because it’s a Christian country or because it’s a Heredic country, that’s not true at all. The reason we resent America is because it has something that we don’t have. We here have this tribalism where tribes really, the don’t forget this was happening 2014. This is before the last five years of what we endured in this country. So maybe he’d say something different today. But at the time, what he’s saying is you’re not beset by this tribalism, America’s really founded on being a multicultural society. And he was very critical of America in terms of slavery. And in terms of not integrating properly, he had a lot of critical things to say. But nonetheless, he viewed as America as a successful multicultural experiment. And he said here, where we are, you take Lebanon, Lebanon’s a failed state. It only works because we’re able to pit various tribes and cultures and religions against each other. And so what really, the truth is the people where we are, they want, what America really has. Is that multi-that we really hate America for is being that kind of a successful, it’s a relative concept, but that kind of a successful multicultural experiment. Which I thought was pretty fascinating. So that what we misinterpreted as this deep kind of almost a religious hatred that we associate with this man. And we really do associate that, in fact was really more, almost like a jealous resentment for an experiment that he wished could work where he is. 

JORDAN: It almost makes no sense to me. Right. He wants to prove that this antiquated mindset of warring tribes and kind of like ethnic conflict that makes life literally just hell for so many people in that region. He wants to show that that’s better than the melting pot ,salad bowl that he’s envious of in the United States. That’s even somehow that’s even more disgusting than just blind religious hatred, which I could go, okay, this is like a stone age mindset of organized religion. He can’t get out of it. No, he just wants-It’s like saying, oh, this person is successful. I want them to fail miserably so that I feel better about myself. Right. It’s just sort of the most, it’s somehow even lower than just like, well, my god hates their god. It’s even, that’s more understandable than this line of nonsense. 

DANIEL: Yeah. It’s the biggest challenge to his power. His power is derived from sectarian violence, sectarian fears and the sort of weird geopolitical tectonic alignments. And you look at Lebanon. Lebanon is a failed state for that reason, but it’s also his power base. And so his biggest fear is that at some point enough people in these countries, people who are, you know, have access to any kind of media, social media otherwise, and can see how life can be elsewhere. When you don’t have sectarianism killing the country, how they look at the West and looked at America at the time he was saying, and say, we can have a different kind of life. It’s not just about, oh my god, I wish we could just go eat McDonald’s whenever we want to. It’s not that it’s like, we can actually have an integrated life where it doesn’t really matter whether I’m Christian and Muslim or whatever skin color. Now, again, this all separate conversation about what America actually is. We don’t have to have that now, but from his perspective, the biggest threat to his rule is people in Lebanon and Syria and Jordan and Egypt demanding that kind of society, a sort of a detribalized society. So from his-it’s very rational if his power base requires that kind of sectarianism to thrive. Then of course he looks at America’s the biggest threat to him. 

JORDAN: Yeah. I, so at the end of the day, for all his sort of philosophizing and things like that from the book and all these sorts of so-called deep beliefs, it sounds like when it comes down to it, it’s just about him holding onto power and wealth at the expense of literally everyone else around him. And he doesn’t care about anything else.

DANIEL: It’s all it is, but it’s all it is everywhere. It’s just a different game. It’s like when we have a corruption conversation, you know. Corruption in one country might be the policemen who needs a bribe to not fine you, or it can be the politician who gets the bribe in order to award you some kind of a good contract in oil drilling contact. And then there are much more subtle forms of corruption. I wrote about in my last book, Nothing But a Circus where, you know, where State Department people direct certain private sector contributions rather than to the global partnerships fund at the State Department, it ends up being with the Clinton Global Foundation, you know, how’s that not corruption. I’m not that fast to judge these things. So the same thing with power, we have people in, in, in the West, in the U S wherever you want our justice power thirsty as they are in other countries, they may have slightly less medieval means of maintaining or reaching it. But that’s not because we’re inherently better or more evolved or sophisticated. It’s just a different context that way. So I’m pretty careful about awarding us kind of a more evolved understanding of using power for good. I’m a little careful about that stuff. And if the last few years have taught us anything, without politicizing the conversation, it’s that maybe we should be a little bit less quick to judge, not just judge other countries, but also judge within our countries, people on the other side of any kind of ideology.


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JORDAN: The story of the hotel guest. This cook is breaking eggs with his hands, right? And this guest goes crazy. Tell me about this because this sort of illustrates your…the way that you think in a way that I think is pretty, pretty incredible. I don’t know if that’s why you included it, but it definitely does, does that job in the book?

DANIEL: Yeah, I included it first of all, because just occurred and I wrote the book almost like a diary. I really, you know, as I read in the book, I recorded a lot. I took notes a lot, and it was important for me. I do write diaries every day, copious diaries since I’m 12 years old. 


DANIEL: And so for me, that’s what it was. So it was really something that occurred first of all, but to me, showed so much in terms of the hypocrisy and the sexual violence that occurs in that region. So what happened was I ended up chasing this gang and the gang leader ended up going to Jordan. And at some point I missed him and Jordan, and I ended up flying to Dubai. And I check in, in Dubai, into the hotel late at night, and I’m in the elevator going up to my room and there are two couples. And there’s two Lebanese guys and two Russian prostitutes with them. And the two guys are arguing over which guy gets which prostitute, and it’s the most, and I understand the Arabic and the, what the Russian women are saying to each other and in Russian, pretty fascinating. And so they’re all just, they’re so over it, obviously, and they’re, they’re annoyed about the haggling over them. And the two Lebanese guys are discussing who gets, and they both wanted the same one. Finally, the dominant one of the two, obviously he gets his way. They get out on the floor, keep on arguing, the door closes, and I go into my room. The next morning, I’d go to the breakfast lounge and the top of the hotel. And I’m just about to ask the cook and I’ve been going to this hotel for 15 years, I really know the whole staff there, I go there a lot. There were years where I’m there once a month, because a lot of our work in the Gulf was based in Dubai and Abu Dhabi. So I’ve known these people for years, the cook, the  everyone who works there. And so I’m just about to ask him for some eggs when one of the two Lebanese guys from the night before cuts in front of me, and the cook kind of looks at me and says, Hey, you okay if I serve him first. And I say, go ahead. So the guy asked for eggs in a certain way, and the cook just takes them out and starts breaking them. And then this guy just loses his mind and starts screaming at the cook. That he’s going to have them fired, that he put his dirty hands and used all kinds of racial vective at the guy that touches eggs with dirty hands and lost him is going to get him fired. And basically at that moment, I just looked at the Lebanese guy and said, you know, actually given where your body parts have been last night, I’m not so sure that this cooks hands on your eggshells is going to be at least the biggest hygiene problem you’re gonna face. And so this guy just lost it and was basically racing, racing to the hotel management to get the cook fired. And the cook was trembling. This is a guy who, you know, sending remittances home to India and life depends on that. I mean, there’s this ugly dark side of the economy in the Gulf, which is obviously these laborers who work for almost nothing and live in awful conditions. And keep that economy going as construction workers, it’s also people like this cook. And he was sure he, his life is over, you know, that those income is going away and he’s going to be kicked out of the country. If he’s lucky he gets his passport back. And so I stayed next to him. The hotel manager sure enough comes and is about to fire the cook. And so I had this huge clash with the hotel manager. He ended up. And basically the way I got it done is Dubai had passed a law, zero tolerance, no prostitution policy in their hotels. And when the guy was going to fire the cook, I said, well, how do you feel about, you know, prostitution policy that you have here? And then he was all in grandstanding and pompous about how they adhere to the highest standards. And I said, actually, Uh, the guests that complained and his buddy over there, were in your hotel with prostitutes. So how do you want it to be? How do you want this to play out? Door one is you protect the cook and you tell the hotel guests to go to hell, door two is you go for it, and your career is over because you just violated the bylaws. So it ended up working out. But for me, the hypocrisy of the moment. And how this played out and, you know, behind the whole thing, again, this sort of on the surface, the laws, we don’t have prostitution. And then behind that, the reality that was going on was something I wanted to include because it was so telling for everything happening in the region.

JORDAN: It really is. To give people a little bit of background on this type of labor market, incorrect me where I’m wrong, but essentially the Philippines, India, and other countries send tens of thousands, possibly hundreds of thousands of what do I know, workers from those countries to work in the Gulf as construction or hotel labor, or sort of any menial task in many ways. There’s a lot of exposés online where these people are kept like 20 guys in a room. They’re all sleeping on the floor. They don’t have, there’s like one toilet for the whole building or no toilet or a bucket in the corner. Sometimes they’re not fed. They don’t have their travel documents. They’re paid like three bucks a day, two of the dollars or one of the dollars they’re sending back to the Philippines or India to keep their family alive in some sort of horrible, equally horrible circumstances back home. And it’s almost like a slave labor economy. And this irate hotel guest was like, well, I’m just going to ruin this guy’s life because I had a long night or I’m hungover, and I’m looking down on him because I’m a racist POS, and he touched the eggs with his bare hands. And you had sort of checkmated him by saying, well, I saw you banging a Russian prostitute or about to bang a Russian prostitute last night. Do you want the manager to find out about that? And then that guy loses his job, right? So it’s like a whole, uh, chess, social, chess match going on here. Where did you learn to think like that? Well, first of all, do you sort of systematically think like that all the time? That must be exhausting.

DANIEL: Look, I, I hope I don’t pick fight I don’t need to pick, but if I’m going to have to pick a fight, then I’m going to fight it. You know, I’m not walking around looking for fights. But this cook I considered almost a friend. This is someone I had known for eight years or so. It was lovely, lovely old man, could have been my grandfather. And so having him be just diminished like that for no reason whatsoever, I felt like it could have been my father or grandfather. And so it brought out that instinct, but you know, you’re constantly confronted with that, and I don’t walk around telling people what I think of them. I mean, if you live in the Gulf, for example, and by the way, this could be anyone, there are a lot of enablers, we’re sort of back to the work economy discussion. You have the World Cup, the football soccer World Cup next year in Qatar right in 2022. Because of course in its infinite wisdom, that World Soccer Association thought that the best place to do a world cup is in the Gulf in summer at 180,000 degree temperature. Right? And now the people are building all these stadiums for one-time use, literally for one-time use, and all the hotels literally for one-time use, they’ll never have that many guests again, those are all neighbors from those places who work in 140 degree temperatures. paid absolutely nothing. The same thing with Saudi Arabia. So you have that reality happening. And of course I was going to tell you, no, that’s not true, but, but it is in fact true. So when you’re confronted, you’re aware of the hypocrisy and you consume that hypocrisy because if I go to hotel in Dubai, I know full well, I am a consumer of that hypocrisy and a beneficiary of it. So I’m not here on some high horse saying that I’m fighting some just war for anybody, but when I’m confronted with it, like I was with this hotel guest. The choice I have to make is, do I let him just destroy this poor cook or do I intervene? And if I’m forced into that choice, I’m going to intervene. So those are not frequent, those moments. There’s another moment in this story, in the bar in Dubai, where I’m confronted by someone who’s dragging a young girl by her hair, and he’s literally in my path. So there’s a confrontation I can’t really avoid in that moment. I don’t walk around in the work that I do. I’m really not trying to look for these types of fights that wouldn’t live very long if I did. At some point you’re picking a fight with the wrong person who has different kind of weapon on him.

JORDAN: Yeah. Yeah, exactly. Where did you learn that type of thinking? What sort of background gives you the, the insight to say, okay, here’s the lever I’m going to pull?

DANIEL: I don’t know that I can say that. I don’t think it’s a cerebral process. It’s really more instinctive in that moment. I think it’s more basically just a filter that you and others that we all applied to ourselves. Is it worth it or isn’t it worth it? I mean, it’s any argument. Then the question is how effective are you in a fight? What are your tools? Do you know how to do physical combat? Do you know when to avoid physical combat or assess the risk of whether someone’s arm-That’s a whole different set of issues and skills. And that’s more military related, to my own background back in the late eighties, early nineties. But just in terms of whether or not to pick a fight, that’s something we do in our relationships and in our jobs and with people we do and whether a surrounding is worth it. And whether you want to stay in a surrounding, you know, I mean, I think you and I both had in common that we somehow had worked in a large law firm in New York. And at some point I felt that I spent so much of my day in acrimony that I found so meaningless, right in negotiations that no one really cared about, like spending three weeks negotiating an arbitration provision or something like that. That just didn’t really matter. But it became a pissing contest of everyone involved. So the kind of acrimony I find just like your car’s in neutral, but full throttle. So you’re just producing smoke and noise and nothing else. Those kinds of fights and acrimonious, I try to avoid the really unproductive, but every once in a while, you just have to decide whether it’s necessary or whether it’s worth it, or whether you have no choice to take a fight because you might be threatened and then you have to do it. Then you just have to have the skills to do it and to end it quickly and to have a first mover advantage. That’s like anyone in any combat, if you’re going to hit you best to be the one who hits first.

JORDAN: There’s a lot of little nuanced interactions like this in the book that I think are really just, street-smarts turned up to 11. Like your friend gave you advice when you were about to meet this very streetwise, manipulative woman. She’s the ex-wife of the human trafficker, just this awful human you’re going to meet her for the second time. And he warns you. And he says, okay, if she shows up in the same attire as she did earlier in the day, it’s all good. If she shows up dressed dramatically different, it likely means that she’s decided to change her facade for you in order to get what she wants from you. And when I heard that, I was like, wow, this guy, this is a guy who has been run through the ringer or is like an ex-spy or something. I mean, that’s so astute. You rarely see that level of calibration in anyone.

DANIEL: Yeah. That’s my friend, Khalid, who I mentioned earlier. He’s someone I can’t even express how much I admire him, how much I owe him. I choke up even thinking about him, cause he’s such a wonderful person. Just so off the charts with an innate intelligence and wisdom also. Also wisdom in the sense that, you know, kind of wise and smart, it’s not the same thing. A wise person doesn’t even get into the situation that the smart person may know how to extricate himself from. Right. So in that kind of wisdom. And so at the time there was this, the former wife of this drug boss. It’s someone I need to connect with, to find a way to him, to know where to reach him and to get some information on him. But she’s well-known in Dubai in the scene. She’s a very beautiful woman. And very, very manipulative. And so the advice that he gives me, he said, look, she’s going to meet you quickly. She’s going to, first of all, talk to you on the phone, then she’s going to decide if it’s worth meeting you, but she’s not going to talk to you just in that first meeting. So that first meeting is solely only for, to assess you and see whether it’s even worth her time. And one way to know whether she’s trying to manipulate you or not is she’s going to meet you in one way, one context dressed in a certain way. If, when you meet her again in the evening, if she meets you again, and you meet her again in the evening, she appears completely differently. You have to understand she’s assessed you, and she’s trying to devise a strategy to how to get something out of you. And that’s exactly what happened. The first time I met her… First, she calls on the phone. She was extremely rude actually on the phone, but I still meet her in this place called The Address in Dubai. It’s a very, it’s kind of a glitzy place. People need to make an impression on someone else. You walk in there, she’s sitting with another guy, a local guy from Abu Dhabi, and she’s dressed in this drop dead beautiful Armani business attire with a silk blouse and just beautiful attire. The only kind of give away that she was trying to impress a little too hard as the cleavage was a little too big for a business context, but she meets me and we talk and then she abruptly ends the conversation. And I was really crestfallen because I needed her to get to her ex-husband. And I’m just basically at this full I’m, just following the thread right. And falling the yarn of the sweater, trying to get to the source. And she, at that point as a person I’m trying to get closer to. She just gets up and leaves and I’m done. I just schlep my way back to the hotel, take a cab and sort of, you know, schelp myself into the hotel thinking that’s it. But as I’m getting out of the cab in the hotel, and my phone rings again. And it’s her again and said, listen, I’m so sorry I had to go. Why don’t we meet tonight over dinner? And so at that moment I realized, okay, she was really just doing this triage, trying to assess me. But then she shows up at dinner completely different, you know, natural, hairs down, wears this loose summer dress, flats, not 50,000 inch pumps and just a completely different person. So she had assessed me as someone that she’s going to impress by being informal, by not overdressing right. And so my friend Khalid thought it was exactly right, and she was extremely shrewd. For her was a trade I’ll help you. I’ll give you information, but here’s what I’m going to need from you. And what she needed from me was basically get away from Dubai, take her daughter out of there, start a new life elsewhere. And that was a trade I did. She now lives in Western Europe. But in return for what she helped me with to try to get to a former husband and also prepare me for when I when I would meet him.

JORDAN: Wow. So you were able to it’s you’re really like a… the Chinese would say like a master of Guangxi. Right. You know, you just know exactly like the connections to use, not to sort of step on, but to say, Hey, look, I know somebody can help you get to Western Europe, but you know, I need this particular thing, and you can’t be a bullshitter when it comes to that, because then that’s going to burn you. So you really do need to somehow be able to call somebody who can get her a visa to stay in France or wherever she lives now. And that is a lifetime of relationship building and not manipulation. And I kind of want to highlight that cause a lot of people will go, oh, you know, he just knows how to pull these levers. Tell me if you agree. Somebody who has connections like that, most of them are built on honest to goodness, good rapport and friendship over years and consistently. Not on having some dirt on somebody or having something to give to somebody at the right time. But by actually just being a good friend to a lot of people over a long period of time.

DANIEL: Yeah. I could not agree with you more. That’s exactly right. People, first of all, people make two mistakes. First of all, they think they can take on a task like this and suddenly generate these gen-these relationships, right? Like they can suddenly generate favors, which is an illusion. You can’t do that. Those, they have to preexist that’s like- I usually give the example that it’s like a surgeon, you know, you put the infusion in the arm way before the surgery, because once you start the surgery, blood pressure sinks, you can’t find a vein. You better have that infusion stuck way before the surgery, right? So those relationships have to preexist. And the second thing is, you know, relationships that are purely transactional, purely about vested interests, not based on an actual affinity for a person, expire. They’re basically defined by that. So in other words, if you are a very handsome or good looking person, and you are then shocked when the person in your life leaves you when you age and are not really that good looking anymore, you didn’t understand the basis of the whole relationship. Versus one that’s built in some kind of a genuine affection. It doesn’t have to be endless affection, but has to be an honest kind of relationship that way. So the only relationships and favors that really work. And that’s why… it’s networks that have pre-existed for years with friends that haven’t been, that have been stressed tested in a way, that we’re not trying to squeeze something out of each other. And you’re way more skilled and experienced in terms of just the concept of building relationships. But my experience, my modest, my humble one, has been that the only ones over my career, in my lifetime that really have been preserved to this day have been ones that I haven’t constantly tried to monetize. Where when you have favors and counter favors, it’s never framed that way. It’s someone that I can ask for something where it’s not constantly measured, and they can ask me for something. And it’s often a really small things. Often I have friends who tell me, Hey man, you know, if someone breaks into your house at night, threatens to kill you, just call me, I’m going to come over with my baseball bat. And those are to me are empty offers because that’s not the situation that ever happens. It’s the little nuance stuff, the stuff where I need you to do something without even telling me, right. Are you not taking credit for it? Because that’s the same thing I’ll do. Those are the, that’s the real honest core of the relationship. And if you build that over time, you build the kind of trust where if you do, ever do need that kind of a favor, it’s never, doesn’t even feel like that. It feels like the person’s part of what you’re going through, and they’re really happy to do it. And that’s exactly how these things play out. And for me, it’s a blessing as I get older to feel like I have those kinds of relationships in my life and to be somewhat conscious of those versus the ones that are really transactional, and that’s okay. There are transactional relationships, but you just have to recognize them as such.

JORDAN: Right. Exactly. But you’re digging the well before you get thirsty and then you’re also not keeping score, right? You’re not like, well, I did this thing for them. 

DANIEL: Exactly.

JORDAN: They owe me this because that then poisons the well, and they can feel that. And they’re like, oh, so he just did that thing cause he wants something from me. Fine. I’ll give him this one thing. And then I’m never talking or dealing with him again because I don’t want to be in debt.

DANIEL: The, you know it’s just like miserable marriage discussions. Well, I did the dishes three times, tonight it’s your turn to get up with a baby, the screaming or something. I mean, if you’re keeping score like that, you have a really shitty future ahead of you. You know what I mean? It just gets really old. At some point that has to be a basis where with a spouse, you want more for the spouse than you want for yourself. Right? You’re not keeping score. When you keep score it breeds, resentment. It, everyone feels victimized. Everyone feels taken advantage of. That’s just not really a very promising foundation. 

JORDAN: Towards the end of the book, you are talking with this human trafficker. He’s one of the worst characters in any book, anywhere. And you use clues and behavior to realize, Hey, I can’t threaten this guy, but I can flatter him. Like, that’s kind of his weakness. You know, you sniffed that out. And in the epilogue, you talk about some of the human trafficking victims you met along the way, which is sort of like the subtext-the real story of the book is all about sort of human trafficking, as opposed to just this missing person. And you mentioned that this human trafficker, his name is Anas. You said he’s been retired. I assume that means he’s dead, right? Is that what that means? Is that a euphemism for he’s no longer with us? 

DANIEL: It does.

JORDAN: How do you know that? 

DANIEL: Oh, I just know that. That’s going to, we’re going to have to invite me for a separate episode to talk about that.

JORDAN: I would love. Yeah, for sure. Because I’m like that guy didn’t have a lot of friends, so I’m guessing you didn’t get an invitation to his funeral or something like that. That might’ve been, something tells me there’s a deeper involvement there. Yeah. We’ll, we’ll come on for part two about that. I know we’re running short on time, but I just, I want to say the ending of this book about the Syrian War is full of personal stories, about horrific atrocities that are very detailed. And it’s one of the most wrenching things that I’ve ever read in my life. I was on an airplane going to Peru, and the flight attendant actually approached me with tissues. And she’s like, are you okay? Because it’s the part that you titled it: Who Cares? I think it’s called, Who Cares? 

DANIEL: It’s the postscript.

JORDAN: The postscript, yes. I was not okay. You know, this is like, really, you did a really good job of detailing some of the atrocities of this war. So if you want to read a good story and you’re interested in sort of a story within a story, and you’re interested in the Syrian War, I highly recommend this book, and we’ll link it in the show notes. I want to thank you for your time. The talking with you is great. This interview went in a totally different direction than I expected, and I think it ended up much better. And I just really appreciate it.

DANIEL: Thank you, Jordan. I really appreciate it too. I listened to one podcast of yours with Sammy the Bull. 

JORDAN: Oh yeah. Part one. Yeah. 

DANIEL: And I really loved it. I actually wanted to say something, but then I thought, it sounds kind of silly and flattering you on your own show. But it was probably the most honest interview conversation I’ve ever heard. I mean that. Like, I can’t imagine very, in other words where every. Nothing he said was intended to impress you, and nothing you asked was intended to flatter him. And I really enjoyed that.

ROCK: Now I’ve got some thoughts in this episode, but before we get into that, here’s what you should check out next on The Jordan Harbinger Show.

CHRIS VOSS: Chase Manhattan bank robbery. I’m a second negotiator on the phone. Hugh McGowan is the commander of the NYPD team. He puts me on the phone. He takes this guy off. He says, you’re up, you’re next. This is what I want you to do. You’re just going to take over the phone and say, you’re talking to me now. And we’re going to do it really abruptly. My point is to get a hostage out, which is what the hostage negotiator is supposed to do. And somebody hands me a note and says, uh, ask him if he wants to come out. That was somebody that was listening. My friend, Jamie, Jamie Sedano. Jamie is sitting there at something and Jamie’s instinct is telling him that this guy wants to come out more than anything else. He just hears it and he writes, ask him if he wants to come out. I see no popping in front of my face. So I go, 

CHRIS VOSS [sounds like tape of the occurrence]: Uh, do you want to come out? 

CHRIS VOSS: And there’s a long silence on the other end of the line, and the guy says, oh, how do I do that. Which is a great big giant yes. Yeah. Everybody goes like, holy cow cake. Get him out of there. I’m talking, I’m talking, I’m talking again probably about, I don’t know, maybe half an hour later. Another note comes to my hand. I don’t know where it’s from. As it turns out, it’s from Jamie again. And the note says, tell him you’ll meet him outside. And I say, how about this? 

CHRIS VOSS [sounds like tape of the occurrence]: How about I meet you out the front or back? 

CHRIS VOSS: And he goes, yeah, I’m ready to end this shit. I get out there, I get on a PA, start talking to him. So I said, hi, it’s Chris. I’m out here. Standard operating procedure is to barricade the exit from the outside. So the bad guy suddenly doesn’t run away. So SWAT has barricaded the bank from the outside, which everyone has forgotten. So I’m trying to talk this guy out the door. We don’t know how many bad guys are inside. We don’t know how they’re going to react, we don’t know if they’re going to start shooting. He comes through the door, he rattles the door. 

JORDAN: He’s nervous, right? I mean, I’m trapped in here now. 

CHRIS VOSS: Now what do we do? You have to unlock the door. And our bad guy is kinda like: Oh want to play games with me, huh? 

JORDAN: For more from FBI hostage negotiator, Chris Voss, including negotiation and persuasion tips along with a few crazy stories, check out episode 165 of The Jordan Harbinger Show. One takeaway here is that the Middle East and Lebanon may be in particular is just insane. I mean, look, we know Syria is there in the middle of a civil war, but Lebanon just seems like the wild west plus Paris mixed together. There’s a reason they call it the Paris of the Middle East. It is just a wild place that I’ve always wanted to visit. Not all vacations to Lebanon include as much action as Daniel got into fortunately, or unfortunately. I would love to see Lebanon, but every time I have planned a trip there, there has been a war. It’s happened literally three times so far. So for the sake of the people of Lebanon, I am not planning any more trips there because apparently, I’m a very bad luck charm for that place. And they might need a little bit of luck these days. This book really makes you think about human trafficking and slavery and refugees in a very different way. It really gets you to see the human side of this conflict. I enjoyed this book a lot, but it is not a feel good read at all. This is more of a hug your wife and kids, like you’ve never hugged them before, kind of read. Links to the book, of course, are in the show notes. The Syrian conflict just has so many sides, too many sides. Big powers like Iran and Russia, they have every incentive to keep that place a hell on earth, keep it open and keep it going, because all of the money that comes into and out of, and all the chaos that goes into and out of a war zone like that, and the refugee crisis actually strengthens their hand relative to Europe and the United States, which is just kind of a sick way to look at it, but that is politics for you, global politics and power. Daniel and I were talking, anywhere the U.N. is especially in a peacekeeping role, it’s really good for the business of criminals. They use U.N. vehicles to transport weapons and drugs, Syria is buying chemical weapons from North Korea with very little, well, no oversight, frankly. I mean, these are things that you learn firsthand from arms traffickers. I’m not saying the U.N. is not good for anything, but I am saying that when they are called in the situation is too dire for them to do much about it, unfortunately. In the book later on one of the main villain characters actually says something quite telling, I thought this was sums up a lot here. He said, “The Islamic part of Islamic terror is largely bullsh*t. It’s just criminal gang stuff, top to bottom. The Islamic part is just a veneer. It might help some people get behind it in a way, but really it’s just, all these conflicts, they are a magnet for the worst people in humanity. It has nothing to do with religion and everything to do with sociopathy and making money at any cost.” I just found this conversation so enlightening and dark, but at the same time, enlightening, can you do that? It sounds like an oxymoron or a paradox. I’ll leave it there. Links to all things Daniel Levin will be in the website in the show notes at jordanharbinger.com. Please use our website links if you buy books from any guest it does help support the show. Transcripts in the show notes. Videos on YouTube at jordanharbinger.com/youtube. I’m at @jordanharbinger on both Twitter and Instagram, or just hit me on LinkedIn. I’d love to connect with you there as well.  I’m teaching you how to connect with great people and manage relationships using the same systems, software, and tiny habits that I use every single day. That’s our Six-Minute Networking course, and the course is free. It’s over at jordanharbinger.com/course. I want you to dig the well before you get thirsty. 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